“What’s wrong with me? I have this great life, why can’t I just feel better? Why am I struggling? Seemingly, no one else is struggling … ”
Ever find yourself muttering one of these questions?
The feelings of stagnation in the middle years is a common human experience – an unraveling, a collapse, being weighed down. How do we journey through these times in a spiritually and emotionally healthy manner?
The recent news announcing the suicide death of fashion designer Kate Spade shocked many. Information has since come out detailing how Kate suffered from depression and anxiety for many years. Suicide rates have risen nearly 30% since 1999, making it a national crisis. It is now the tenth leading cause of death in the United States. We often assume people who commit suicide are mentally ill, but this isn’t always the case. There are many factors contributing to it that have nothing to do with mental illness including loss of a relationship, loneliness, chronic illness, financial loss, history of trauma or abuse, and the stigma associated with asking for help.
Joining Lisa on this episode of The Water Jar is social and personality psychologist, Heidi Lepper Barrett (see full bio below). They begin an honest conversation on this topic and discuss how Jesus is our bridge to hope, how we all need new scaffolding to shore up our faith through the renewal of our minds during these periods. Rachel Brown also stops by and shares another thoughtful and relatable Drop by Drop segment.
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Heidi shared the following prayer once given to her by a priest during the sacrament of reconciliation. It is a simple yet powerful prayer to invoke when plagued by negative emotions and evil spirits.
In the name of Jesus, I order out the spirit of <name the negative emotion that has you in its grip, e.g., perfectionism, shame, pride, etc.>. Holy Spirit, bring me <the fruit/gift that replaces that negative emotion>.
Heidi S. Lepper Barrett
|I am a native born Californian (Santa Barbara to be exact) and made my way to Iowa after earning a Ph.D. in Social/Personality Psychology from the University of California in 1996. Joe, my husband, did his graduate work and I did my postdoctoral fellowship at The University of Iowa (that’s how two Californians became Iowa transplants! Go Hawks!). I began teaching at Drake University in January 2000 and that was also the year, at age 30, I was baptized Catholic alongside our first newly born son. After ten more years of loving my husband and raising our two boys, our family was relocated to Moscow, Russia for Joe’s job in January 2010. I was absolutely convinced I’d spread world happiness to ‘the Russians’ and would come home after exactly three years for that was Joe’s assignment and the length of my Drake sabbatical. God smiled down and said ‘Sweet child, your plans may not be My plans, I am nowhere close to being done with you yet.’ (Philippians 1:6) ... and my conversion to true faith began.
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